Crime and Punishment

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Oh, sweet Charlotte–how I love you so. Please, remember that when I have to reprimand you. It’s not because I don’t love you, or because I don’t care about you or your feelings. It’s because I love you *so* much that I care enough to mold you into a decent human being! I don’t expect you to grasp that concept, or much of anything to do with discipline, but if there’s one thing I hope you understand, it’s that no matter what you do, I still love you.

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Now that we’ve cleared the air, it’s time for some real talk. My 18 month sassy but sweet, daring but caring, loving but loud little girl is changing, and I’m not quite ready. Not only in the sense that I miss my baby girl, but because I don’t feel prepared for the challenges of toddlerhood that are already being thrown FULL FORCE at me! I understand the benefits that come from the changes–bigger personality, more independence, high energy.. But, I’m also starting to see the difficulties–bigger personality, more independence, high energy.. It’s a double edge sword that no one quite warns you about!

Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love her big personalty and getting to see it shine through. Getting to know her better is one of my absolute favorite joys! She is so fun and full of life, and I don’t want to squash her spirit. BUT, I also don’t want a child without discipline, boundaries, and guidelines that help shape her into an obedient, respectful, and kind person.

Right now, her vocabulary is expanding by leaps and bounds, but it is still limited. Therefore, my reasoning with her is limited, which makes disciplining at this age extremely difficult. For example, at her Gymboree class, she has started hitting other kids in the face. Talk about horrifyingly embarrassing!! She is incredibly social and very inquisitive, so she tends to play and “talk” to the other kids while standing 5in from their face. She hasn’t quite figured out personal space. But, after staring at them and babbling to them about who-knows-what, she reaches up and smacks them in the face! I can’t tell if this is malicious intent or curiosity-but, either way, the kids don’t like it and neither do I! It has now happened to 4 poor innocent children that didn’t see it coming-and, I’m determined to not let it happen again.

After telling her no, and explaining why we don’t hit people in the face, she looks at me completely confused. Of course–I can’t expect her to understand my words, but she can understand “ow” and I have used that to help her associate a hit with an “ow.” The last time there was an “incident”, I said “ow, that hurts her. You need to say your sorry and give her a hug because you hurt her feelings and that wasn’t nice.” Charlotte then said, “sorry” and gave poor Sofia a hug. Now, do I expect her to fully understand what she said, what it meant, or why I had her do that? Of course, not! But, I firmly believe in talking things out with my child-no matter how big or small-and the power of repetition. If I start forming habits now, then I have a better chance of her making positive behavior changes. At least, that’s my hope!

But, man–parenting is HARD. And, this is just one area, of many, that we are working on! My methods aren’t perfect, I make thousands of mistakes, but, I have to believe that my efforts are worthwhile and will make a difference. Can you imagine how our children would be if we didn’t even try??

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Check out one of my favorite fashion looks for Charlotte! It’s great for comfort and activity, due to the flexibility of the clothing, which is perfect for a full-of-energy toddler!

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Pair the look with a cute jacket for a stylish touch! 😉

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Find fashion deets below!

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Here comes the star tee is from The Children’s Place. Her exact style is sold out, but you can find a similar one here.

Solid heather grey leggings are from The Children’s Place, and they are currently half off!! Find them here.

Black and white marled leg warmers are Cat & Jack, and BONUS! They come with solid black tights and are only $4.99 for the set!! Go get them! You can find them here.

Blush sparkle combat boots are from The Children’s Place. These are sold out, but you can find a very similar style here.

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From my heart to yours,

Janalyn

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